Many of us believe that a true friend is someone we spend a lot of time with. Although we may not have spoken in a while, or maybe far away, the ideal friend is someone who stays in our thoughts, fights our battles, prays for us, and internally wishes the best for us. Their presence is always felt. The majority of my friends, including those I have met online, complain about how sometimes I get caught up in my world and do not make time for them. It can be challenging to strike a balance between our loved ones, friends, and ourselves. I had to figure that out and still not neglect my alone time. Those who are on the receiving end of my love understand that I love, and make an effort to keep the spark between us. I am grateful for the love I also receive from them despite my imperfections and flaws. Honestly, I tried to keep my circle very small, and I believe that has worked out well for me.
Even though life might be terrible at times, the real human connection keeps us going. It is uplifting in and of itself to be listened to, understood, cared for, and supported by another person. But the funny thing about the connection is that it doesn’t always come to us easily. Sometimes we need help.
So here is how you can make real human connections with your friends:
Show weaknesses to each other
Friendship is not a competition, but a chance to allow each other to know awkward and potentially embarrassing things about each other. Merriam-webster dictionary describes a friend as one attached to another by affection or esteem. Show how much you trust each other by sharing failures and sorrows that could expose you to probable disgrace from the outside world. They should be able to offer you the gift of their vulnerability and not judge you. The best way for your friends to have a real connection with you is to know the person behind the masks and to know that you are radically imperfect as you come but still choose to love yourself
Understand each other.
There are many aspects of yourself that you do not fully understand until someone brings them to your attention. You can even become defensive, but a true friend will point out your errors and correct them with love. Sometimes they will make you laugh at yourself, own your mistakes, and work towards finding a solution. Understanding each other will help to create a lasting friendship.
Your friend should be able to lead you on the journey of self-love in a way that you would not easily do. Most of the time, we do not like who we are. A friend should serve as a reminder of your identity and your abilities. You might not recognize the love that is already present within you until someone helps you become aware of it. To become fully aware of oneself, there must be a certain amount of connection. Find a true friend who will see your potential even when you are unable to do so.
One fact about people is that they enjoy talking about themselves. Find a friend who shares information about themselves to connect rather than brag about their accomplishments. Find yourself a friend who is willing to genuinely listen to you through your tears and laughter. By doing this, you will be building a solid foundation for your friendship and establishing a real connection. They will be with you every step of the way.
Stick together, no matter what
Life is a constant, twisting rollercoaster of ups and downs. We all need to find out where we fit into this world. And though you tackle this endeavor alone, having good friends by your side makes the ride a lot more bearable. You meet new people all the time, and most of them will eventually leave you, but the best ones stick by you every step of the way.
Push each other out of the comfort zone
Have you ever seen a friendship without inspiration? There is no drive to pursue your dreams. That is what we call a “taxing” friendship. Make sure you surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed and be your best self. Make goals and dreams together. It will motivate you to step out of your comfort zone and become the person you were meant to be. Friendship connections take work, but they can be developed as a unit.
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