The art of laughing through the tears.
Ever find yourself in situation where you’re so mad or so annoyed you find yourself bursting into laughter unwittingly? Or ever notice how guys laugh through their pain after getting accidently kicked square in the nuts? Funny, isn’t it? I mean the laughing, not the part about being hurt.
Laugh out loud
Of course you do find the few that gets pleasure from the sin itself. I’m not just talking about the ‘Jack Ass’ slapstick humour though. I’m talking about using laughter as a surviving tool in your life in general, sort of a coping merchanism.
I know of a person that once survived getting mugged by simply laughing at his muggers dead in the face. They must’ve been so confused and humiliated that they genuinely had no idea what to do next. As you can imagine criminals loathe attention. But they must have been confused by his laughter.
I’ve also heard of a woman that began giggling right after seeing her husband in a coffin. As you can imagine everyone was mortified by this innapropriate behaviour. But soon enough everyone started joining in.
Life is so much easier with a sense of humour.
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You see we as humans have a certain threshold for pain and when the capacity for emotional pain storage gets saturated, it pushes pain into the contrary balancing emotion. It’s a sort of an emotional pain balance that’s regulated accordingly for our own good.
The point I’m making is that I’ve noticed humour not just to be a matter of taste or something to create every now and again but an effective tool to navigate through life. And while some may claim ‘they never use such tools’, we often use humour to skip through awkward situations with a simple ‘lol’ response. A ‘lol’ will speak a lot about the expression.
So how does one use this tool?
Well firstly – Find humour in every situation whether good or bad – few days back i was playing a game with my boyfriend of asking each first date questions. A certain question got me thinking. Which joke can you think of on the spot? I said to him this is a difficult one because I find humour in almost every situation.
I encourage you to find humour in everything. Am not saying you should be in denial and avoid solving problems but you should not allow situations to steal your joy.
Secondly – Use the tool of laughter as coping mechanism. Take it as a way to relieve stress. Life gets hard at times so we should at least try to find ways in which we can cope – laughter being one of them. It’s okay to laugh your way out of stress as long as you don’t run away from your problems.
Whatever the science is behind laughter, the bottomline is that it distracts better than any comedy movie can.
Therefore I say use those God given endorphines
to let God rain whilst the sun is shinning. So when life kicks you in the nuts, you know what to do.
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Wowww! Awesome friend, shazzy.😊💖💖🤗 I also will laugh sometimes but my stomach will pains and also tears will come while laughing😂😂
Hahaha I understand hey
It happens to me at times when I’m laughing…you’ll see tears on my face unwittingly. Its really hilarious
But the message is to take the same mentality and apply it especially when we encounter problems.
Thanks for reading my friend
Haha! That’s very nice to hear from you my friend. 😊 You are always welcome.
“When we can laugh through pain,
we have defeated pain,
and pain have not control over us.” _-Van Prince
Wow absolutely
That’s the message I was trying to raise
This life needs humour indeed
I got you
That’s true. Without laughter, life is dull as hell. “So when life kicks you in the nuts, you know what to do.” That is funny. LOL.
Hahahahaha😅😅😅😅😅
In situations where I didn’t know what to do, I just laughed my way out
Thank you so much for reading
Laughter is the best medicine.
I agree
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I absolutely agree with you
We are wheree we are now due to numerous decisions we have made for ourselves.
Thank you so much for your comment…was well thought of
Your post means so much to me coming especially at a time like this. Thanks a bundle for sharing Lebogang! ❤
You are welcome Emmanuel
Humour can save most of us from multiple stresses.
During the lockdown I found myself intentionally trying to find humour in almost everything though it was not easy I had to laugh my way out of it
I love this post! Laughing is so important!
Thanks a ton
We are moving in the right direction hence we just have to find humour even in difficult situations
You are right! Thanks for posting. Super important! ❤️
You are welcome
I absolutely agree with you.
We are where we are now due to numerous decisions we made for ourselves.
Thank you so much for your comment…was well thought of
I used to have a bad habit of laughing when it was least appropriate. I couldn’t seem to control myself though. Excellent post! 🌸
Hahaha i can Imagine
Its okay to laugh where necessary not when there’s serious matters
Imagine laughing at a funeral
Almost did that, too. I didn’t think it was funny, of course. It’s just that the more I told myself not to laugh, the more compelled I was to do so.
😅😅😅😅
This is what I need to add to my life. Thank you for the awesome post. 🙂
Thank you for reading 🥰🥰🥰
[I’ve also heard of a woman that began giggling right after seeing her husband in a coffin. As you can imagine everyone was mortified by this innapropriate behaviour. But soon enough everyone started joining in.]
I really couldn’t imagine this scene playing out. Must’ve been a rare case or grief. Or what was the context….it feels out of context.
Yoohh I’m not sure what really transpired but i heard she started laughing then everyone else joined in.
It must have been awkward
Bizarre in other words
Absolutely
So true. An interesting read.
Thanks a ton
Few days ago, i was watching a video where the teacher was telling about giving presentation and he told whenever you feel yourself nervous before giving presentation, laugh hardly for few seconds it will help you in releasing your nervousness.
By the way , your post title & topic both are extensively captivating ❤🔥.
Hahahaha I can imagine that truly helped the students to calm the nerves.
And I believe it will also help to boost your confidence level when you laugh out loud.
Laughter is indeed a medicine in every situation
Thank you so much for your kind words. Few days ago, one of my friends said something and out of nowhere I told him I’m gonna use that as a title for my blog and we all laughed. He said to me the way I’m so addicted to blogging, everything is about my next blogpost
Thank you so much for reading
Great post mate. It reminds me of something an old friend told me, “First rule in a crisis … Smile ! ” This described I think the value of a more level thinking state, happiness and a giggling moment, an easier mind-state to come to a rational response and a happier conclusion. I’m not sure … what say you, Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji?
I agree with you absolutely
It’s another state of thought which helps to level down stress and other depressing thoughts.
Medically, laughter is described as an antidote to help with stresses and other emotional aspects
If we laugh a little the pain won’t hold the control over us to make us vulnerable neither the one inflicting the pain would control us. Other than that it is a coping mechanism which helps us survive the bitter times.
Coping mechanism which doesn’t cost us nothing at all. Laughter is indeed a medicine. Life is too hard to be angry over every little thing
Laughter! Laughter!
Indeed
Laughing/finding the humor during difficult times can be difficult but very beneficial. It reminds us that it’s not the end of the world. Great post.
I truly agree
Laughing alone doesn’t automatically solve problems but it helps us to know that nothing lasts forever but there’s a lot to be grateful for.
Beautiful perspective. Thanks for sharing 🙂
You are most welcome
Thank you so much
Thank you so much for the reblog
Much appreciated…
Thank you so much for the reblog
Much appreciated