Women gets real about their Body Insecurities.

We’ve come to the end of our lovely series which concludes our discussion of men’s and women’s body insecurities. Also, don’t forget to check out our last two pieces about body insecurities. In one piece, I shared my personal experiences, and in the other, I invited my male friends to share their experiences.
My personal experiences
Men and their personal body experiences
And I was overjoyed when my male friends agreed to share their stories because men aren’t always as vocal about their body problems as women are. At the very least, we now know that men have insecurities as well and how they have dealt with them and moved on with their lives.

In today’s post, I asked my female friends to share their own experiences with body insecurities. It was simple with the ladies since I know for a fact that there is something that we are insecure about. As a result, it was easy to resonate with them. This piece, I believe, will resonate with you and assist you in realizing that you are perfect just the way you are.
Highlighting these insecurities isn’t meant to exaggerate or amplify them; rather, it is meant to show you that you’re not the only one dealing with insecurities. And also to teach you how to deal with them.
The lovely women and I, are only trying to raise awareness that we should accept ourselves as we are and stop mocking and condemning each other’s bodies.

Let’s hear from the ladies about their insecurities and how they dealt with them.


Moksha – India

Since I was a child, I’ve always been overweight. I was continually made to feel unattractive because of my weight. People would make fun of me, making me feel insecure. I wouldn’t be able to find clothes in my size on any of the labels, which would make me feel very insecure. For most of my 20s, I shut out people. I felt they’d make fun of me because I was insecure. I allowed my ex to walk all over me because I felt like I’d never find someone else who would want to be with me. After all, I felt ugly. I then decided to lose weight and improve my health. I lost 30 kg and got into great shape. Nonetheless, I was never happy with the way I looked. Although I felt more confident, I was still insecure. I’ve gained 10-12 kg in the last two years and am back on the chubby side, but I’ve worked hard to fall in love with myself.
I wear clothes that I didn’t usually wear. I take photos of myself all the time and just feel happy in my skin. I exercise every day, but not to lose weight; instead, I exercise to stay healthy. I don’t believe there is a set formula, but being in love with oneself has a positive effect. Every morning, I look in the mirror, smile, and tell myself that I’m lovely. It helped me fall in love with myself. I also realized that I’d wasted a lot of my life trying to fit into society’s definition of beauty and being unhappy as a result. I am not going to waste any more time being unhappy. I’ve decided to be happy with my skin.
Happy Panda

Themby Bhebhe – Zimbabwe/South Africa

First and foremost, I appreciate the opportunity to be part of your blog, and, incredibly, the topic is so close to my heart.
My teeth had been bothering me for a long time. When I was younger, I used to suck my tongue when I was bored, which caused my teeth to become crooked and left me with a lisp. It simply impacted the way I spoke and even smiled in public. I had reservations about whether or not I should pursue my aspirations as a future TV and media figure. It’s only recently that some close friends have encouraged me to smile more, as my smile is what made me special, and they loved it. I’ve also recently had a lot of insecurity about my body since giving birth to my baby.
Before I became pregnant, I was a size 26, and thereafter, I was a size 32. It is still slim, but me being me, I always felt big, argghh, especially since my new body came with an extra tummy, hahaha. I eventually managed to embrace who I was because every alteration to my body reminded me of my power, having delivered an adorable human being to earth. I mean, doesn’t it make me a total superwoman? What our bodies can do to the human race is incredible. Superwomen indeed!!
Masante glam: Masante Glam

Takudzwanashe Charlene Ndangana – Zimbabwe

I hated eating when I was younger and was a little thinner. My older sister was overweight and big-bodied and we were inseparable. People would make jokes about me being “mabhonzo” (skinny). As a result, I began to hate my body, and there were times when I wished to overeat to achieve the ideal body structure I wanted. I observed my peers’ hips widening and their breasts expanding during puberty. Unfortunately, I still had a flat chest and a shapeless uniform. My only desire was to have large breasts, gain weight, and have wide curves. I recall striving to fit in and having insecurities that lasted until I was an adult. There was a part of me that believed that if I did not have bigger breasts or wide hips, I would not be a real woman.
My sister sat me down and complimented me on my small-sized breasts. She stated that having large breasts isn’t something to be envious of, and when she described her bra-buying experiences, I realized she had to go to several stores to find the perfect fit. In my case, however, I would buy the bra from any store and even travel without one.
I allowed my body size to unnecessarily steal my joy, and I was too young to see that. Just like flowers, we blossom and grow in different ways.
Takudzwanashe Ndangana

Sylvia Ideh – Nigeria

My stomach and back fat bothered me, but I have learned to accept it and know that I could change it if I so desired to. People used to call me ‘Probo’ when I was a kid, which means ‘overweight’ in Nigeria. I used to be a grumpy person. I disliked wearing a shirt without a camisole underneath.
I hated sleeveless tops. I’ve never been a fan of shorts and couldn’t cross gutters with planks because I was afraid they’d break under my weight. I also didn’t want to wear heels because I was afraid they might break, and people would mock me for being a fat kid.
Then someone I cared about informed me that if I don’t watch what I eat, I’ll be bullied at university. That was extremely painful for me and following that statement, I became more self-conscious about my appearance. I was terrified, yet when I arrived at university, I was not bullied in the least.
It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. The pandemic of 2020 was quite beneficial to me! It made me realize a lot of things. When I witnessed how other plus-size people lived their lives, I began to appreciate my own body.
My body is something I love. There are a few things I’d like to change, but I don’t despise them. Because I feel lovely, I wear sleeveless shirts, shorts, heels, and everything else. I’m still working on self-acceptance and body positivity. It’s a journey.
Sylvia Ideh

Anthonia Adegite – Nigeria

I’m the type of person who is described as thin. Yes, I’m tall and slender, like really slender. I’ve been given a variety of nicknames since elementary school, including noodles, spaghetti, longhand, broomstick, and toothpaste, but I’ve never felt insecure about my stature or body type. I must say, and that is because I’ve always enjoyed and loved the way I was.
I recall a conversation with a high school classmate in which I asked her if she would like to be as tall as me, to which she responded with a resounding ‘God forbid!’ Well, I smiled and said to myself, “That’s your business,” because it’s amazing to be tall and skinny. I often tell people that the way you perceive yourself is how other people will see you, so if you feel attractive, other people will see you as lovely, and vice versa. When I was younger, I was given several unpleasant nicknames, but I am no longer called by such names. Many individuals have approached me to express their admiration for my height, slimness, and self-assurance. My friend recently told me that she wants to be tall and skinny like me, and I was like whatttttt!! Are you for real!?
All it takes is self-love to be appreciated by other people.
Anthonia Adegite

Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt stories. I do empathize with you as I know what it means to feel insecure about the way one looks. It must have been difficult to put all of your emotions into words after hearing about all of your experiences. I commend you all and promise you that another lady will read your experiences and recognize herself in you.

You’ve paved the way.
Whether we have lisps in our teeth, little or large breasts, small or large thighs, curves or not, short or tall, dark or light-skinned, we should embrace the way we look and release the aura that has already been put on us. Nobody, even ourselves, should ever make us feel insecure about our appearance. We are all gorgeous in our own right.

Women, please repeat after me:
We are rejecting body insecurity.
We are all gorgeous in our own right.
We are special and unique just the way we are.
We are classy, magnificent, and smart women who are beautiful, attractive, and elegant.
Our wonderful male counterparts, We love you as much as you love us.
Stop mocking, abusing, and mistreating us.
We take an oath as women to be careful with our words when we address you, and we would expect the same from you.

Stay blessed!!!

Which story had the most impact on you or resonated with you the most? Let me know what you think in the comments section, and please also share a brief description of your body insecurities.

We’d like to hear about your experiences so that we can help you overcome your insecurities.

From my heart to yours



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